So I've never been a fan of chain letters. They're just a waste of time in my opinion but I don't get on people who participate in them. I don't know how many of you are on facebook or have seen this new one going around but it bugs me (because I have friends who are feeling hurt by it). It says "____ weeks (pregnant) and craving _____" how many weeks you are and what you re craving is based on your birth month and the day you were born. It claims in the actual chain letter that it is in support and to raise awareness for breast cancer, but please tell me how fooling people into thinking you are pregnant for a moment is doing that.
Now yes one could argue that "well there are a ton of people talking about how absurd it is and has nothing to do with breast cancer and they are now talking about it, so it technically is raising awareness" and yes on that one point it is true. But seriously if you really want to effectively support and raise awareness for breast cancer survivors/research/and those fighting it just be straight forward about your post. Post statistics of how many women & MEN get breast cancer each year. Post about how far treatment has come and what survival rates are now. Sign up for a walk-a-thon and raise money to donate something that actually tells people about it. Not these stupid "games" that I truly feel are just to confuse the boys. Which also doesn't make sense to me because men can fall victim to breast cancer as well. And if you are trying to actually raise awareness about something why keep people in the dark about it?
I recall when the first chain letter for breast cancer awareness started. Girls would post the color of the bra that they were wearing. Again it's stupid to me but at least I can see how that more so relates to breast cancer (looking at it in the "I'm lucky to be wearing a bra because some women have to have mastectomy" way.) The ones that have followed with talking about where you put your purse when you get home, your shoe size, and now "being pregnant" have nothing to do with it.
I feel that this particular "game" though is worse than the rest because I have people I care about who are being hurt by it. Maybe that doesn't make sense to you but think about it like this. You are a grieving mother who has recently (or even not recently but still grieving) suffered the loss of a child specifically while pregnant you are heartbroken and want nothing to do with anything baby or pregnancy related. Then you log onto your facebook and are hit in the face with 6 or 7 friends in a row all posting this "game". Since you don't know that it's a game you have to assume that they are in fact _____ number of weeks pregnant and this is how you are finding out about it. Obviously this "game" was not intended to be hurtful to those in this above mention situation but it is.
So if you have a facebook and want to really bring awareness to breast cancer post a real status about it or a support ribbon not these stupid "games".
*Sorry for my pregnancy scatter brain the post is jumping cause of that*
the message I got didn't say pregnant. It's just I'm ___ weeks and craving ____. I think it's silly and I won't post it, but I've commented mine on other people's posts. After seeing two people posting it, as someone who's still grieving my miscarriage I thought that it couldn't possibly be a coincidence that they both posted it and so I questioned one person. But it did suck at first and it hurt.
ReplyDeleteOne good thing about facebook is you can hide posts from anyone you'd like. It's a public forum and just as you're allowed to post what ever you'd like these girls have the right to post what they would like as well. For a lot of them it is nothing more than a game, but really, it's facebook... I see stupid statuses everyday that make me angry, frustrated, etc but I make the choice to not dwell on them. Only you can decide your own emotions. Only you can let yourself be upset by something so trivial as a status update. I'm not saying it's not stupid but no need to let it ruin your day/week/month...
ReplyDeleteI feel like you have my post all wrong.
ReplyDeleteI never said it ruined my day in fact I've had friends posting it for several days and just glanced/laughed over it till now; it just bothers me that I have friends hurting because of it.
But in no possible way would I allow something from the internet especially some silly game to dictate my day.
I just wish that these friends were not in pain from it, and I understand their pain.
No actual emotion is being spent on this, that would be pretty silly, I just felt like voicing my opinion on it here.
And as you said it's a public forum, here and there, so there is no problem with my voicing that I think it is stupid and does absolutely nothing to support those fighting against breast cancer and that if you want to you should do something better than a chain letter.
I'm not bashing those who have posted this game or saying that they are stupid for doing so. Obviously they did it because they do believe it helps to support/raise awareness I just don't happen to agree is all.
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But no, I'm not upset by it or letting it get my day down I have to much going on for that lol.
Totally agree. I put this as my status:
ReplyDeleteI know October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, BUT it is ALSO Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. The chain-mail status "I'm ___ weeks and craving ____ " can be a painful reminder for those who have lost a child during pregnancy. Perhaps a different status update for Breast Cancer Awareness month (maybe one that actually has a relevant meaning and isn't so insensitive) can be considered and then I would be more than happy to support it. ♥
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I agree. Here's what I just put as my status:
ReplyDeleteI know October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, BUT it is ALSO Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. The chain-mail status "I'm ___ weeks and craving ____ " can be a painful reminder for those who have lost a child during pregnancy. Perhaps a different status update for Breast Cancer Awareness month (maybe one that actually has a relevant meaning and isn't so insensitive) can be considered and then I would be more than happy to support it. ♥
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Funny, I didn't know this was happening since I really don't keep up with FB anymore, but I did notice on 2 diff occasions updates like these from 2 diff friends. Since I didn't know I actually felt bad because I've been trying to conceive for almost 9 years with no luck. I felt happy for them, but now I kind of feel dumb :( .... So yeah, that is a stupid way of supporting breast cancer awareness....
ReplyDeleteHi aduff325. I agree so I just used your status on my FB. =) Thanks
ReplyDeleteI think people keep trying to create these to get attention in some way. I know that comes across as weird and you may not understand what I mean. But the first one was the color of your bra. And you would just post the color as your status. And you only passed it around to girls and it would confuse the guys. But in the original post that you passed around to the girls you had links to various breast cancer awareness sites. THEN came the purse one. And it was where you put it: "I like it ________". And then there were a few others. And now this one. It's just getting ridiculous. And I agree this one was the WORST!
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