The Duggars

*VENT*
I am sure that most people have read by now that Michelle Duggar who was expecting her 20th child has experienced a second trimester loss. At what should have been 19 weeks when they went in for a routine check up (what I assume after reading the article was their anatomy scan, since they should have been able to find out the sex) they discovered the heartbreaking news that their baby had passed away.

I can not begin to say how heartbroken I am for the family.
I know that my losses were early but the moment I knew I was pregnant I was in love with that little person growing inside me. That was my child and I would do anything to protect him/her. The moment I knew I was pregnant my dreams started racing about what they would be like, what we would name him or her, how we would decorate the nursery, etc.
When both those miscarriages happened I had to bury that dream and grieve over a life that had not even had a chance to get started, and a child that I already so deeply loved. (I miss those children that should have been but thank God everyday for my little rainbow baby on the way!)

What upsets me most about this situation and them being in the media light is the heartless comments that people make. As if it wasn't bad enough that people made comments about how "she should just get fixed" when they announced that baby number 20 was on the way. Comments are now being made like "well they should have expected it after what happened last time" or "maybe they should take it as a sign and just focus on and feel blessed by the children they have".
I don't understand such comments.
And what really annoys me about these commentators is when women who say "I should not be told what to do with MY body because it's MINE" then turn around and say the above about Mrs. Duggar "getting fixed". It's so hypocritical, you can try and argue that you say it because of the risk that it could possibly pose to future children/pregnancies but the fact is that it is still HER body and SHE is the only one who can choose what to do with it.
Just because you don't agree with their life style/parenting choice doesn't mean you should try and just tear them down. And I am sure that she has a doctor who talks to her about risks and complications.

I saw somebody say "Well I expected it to happen since her last baby was born so early and had so many problems". But just because she had one rough pregnancy does not mean that all or any subsequent pregnancy would have issues. This pregnancy could have been her easiest ever but sadly that is not what was planned.

I have no doubt in my mind that the family will get through this time together and be stronger because of it, because they have such faith in God.


(Please note I know people are allowed to have and express their opinion on things but I don't understand just plain being mean and heartless when a family is grieving.)

Pregnancy & Infant Loss Memorial Day

October 15th is pregnancy infant loss memorial day.

While the month of October is "designated" as a month of awareness recognizing the pain that comes with the loss of a pregnancy/child it's always overshadowed by the several other awareness causes that also take place during this month.
Those of us who have been through the horrible nightmare of loosing a child understand that people are extremely uncomfortable with talking about or even hearing about pregnancy/child loss. We understand that even though much awareness has been brought to this lonely cause it is still very taboo to speak of.

But today we ask that on this one day you stand with us and remember our much wanted, much loved babies that were taken too soon. At 7pm wherever you are that you light a candle for 1 hour and show your support for the grieving families. If you participate in this event and want to take a picture of your lit candle and send it to me that would be awesome (and I would then share it with the several other angel moms that I know).

On a final note, unless you have been through this you truly can not understand just how heartbroken and lonely the feelings you have are. Having a support system from friends, family and even strangers just letting you know that it's not your fault that it happened and that your baby existed and is acknowledged by somebody other than you makes all the difference in the world.

It's a twisting winding road

Live life with no regrets.
A nice thought by something that is not so easy to do.
There are things in life that are out of our control that we wish we were able to change or choices we made ourselves that we wish we could go back and undo, or do differently. I know that I have a few situations in my past were I look back now and think "wow what a stupid decision that was, what on earth was I thinking?", but I don't really regret them. Each decision I made took me down a different path that lead me to where I am today, and while at times that journey wasn't remotely fun, I wouldn't undo any of it. While I have situations that I wish were different (for example having gone through two miscarriages) it was a situation that taught me a lesson and continues to even now. So even though I wish it hadn't happened at all I can appreciate what it has taught me.
We can not have growth without struggle to first overcome.
Romans 5:3-5 More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, endurance produces character, and character produces hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

There is always a silver lining, it may be nearly impossible to see and it may take time to see it, but it is there.




(New music is up, I tried to pick some songs that, while are not my usual genre of music to listen to, I enjoy and they make me smile and just feel happy. Hope you like them too.)